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by Simone Giuliani
June 23, 2015
Photography by Simone Giuliani
WOMEN'S CYCLING BROUGHT TO YOU BY ORBEA
Want to rack up brownie points, score a leave pass or find out a sly way to trick your partner into letting you go riding? You could always sneak out very quietly at 5.30 a.m. when your partner is still happily snoring away and when you arrive back at 10 a.m. say you woke up early and asked if it was okay if you went riding. Strange that your partner doesn’t remember mumbling yes in a half-asleep state, isn’t it? You could soften your partner up with a nice dinner and a favourite beer right before you pitch your request for a weekend away on the bike with friends. Alternatively, you could just book his two-hour root canal at the dentist across town for the same time as your favourite Saturday morning ride time. He’ll be none the wiser.
Truth? I’d never suggest doing any of that nor would I think about doing it myself. For a start it would be pretty silly. My husband has been known to read Ella CyclingTips so I would get sprung really quickly. More importantly, one way to ensure your partner resents your time spent on the bike is giving him a good reason to feel negatively about it -like tricking, cajoling or manipulating your way into ride time. Instead let’s channel our inner nice girl and take a more reasonable approach to ride time negotiation.
It makes me gnash my teeth when I start reading forum discussions and articles about the tricks for swinging a leave pass so your partner will let you go out riding (oops sorry boss, of course I am not referring to the one you wrote). Once, long ago, I was that partner who didn’t ride much and, although I know those pieces are written in jest, they really irritated me.
Being painted as a fun-killing, authority-wielding nag really annoyed me. I certainly didn’t think I was one, and part of the reason for that is that I wasn’t given any reason to be. My partner negotiated his riding time with tact and consideration, so I was never handed a reason to complain about or resent his cycling. It made my husband healthy and happy and didn’t always have to take precedence over everything else, so of course I supported his attempts to get out as often as possible. In fact I watched him come back from his ride with a grin on his face so often that I ultimately decided I should get in on the cycling action as well.
Now, many years on, the situation has changed. I’m often the one trying to fit in more than my fair share of riding time. When heading into a discussion about squeezing in that extra ride the outcome is usually much better, and we are both much happier, if I try and remember what it was like when the shoe was on the other foot.
What are your top tips? And keep it nice.